Men and Women's Freindships

But the practical ramifications are that we (women) can't do the slightest thing wrong . . . And if we can't care for somebody who screws up, that makes our position on friendship very precarious.

Those are the words of Joyce Benenson of the Department of Biological Anthropology at Harvard, discussing recent research published in the journal Psychological Science. Researchers at Harvard, Emmanuel College in Boston and the Universite du Quebec have concluded that women are far less tolerant of their friends than are men. I would argue that carries over into intimate relationships with men as well, but the researchers don't broach that topic.

They only dealt with same-sex friendships and found that, compared to men's, women's relationships tend to be "significantly less tolerant, more volatile, and likelier to degrade based on a single negative incident than male same-sex friendships." These findings seem to fly in the face of long-held notions of women as the more relational of the sexes.

Debunking that notion comes hard on the heels of the study by Marta Meana of the University of Nevada about women's sexuality, that found it to be far more narcissistic than relational. (I reported on that in the posting "Fascinating Article on Women's Sexuality.") Although the two studies are obviously about different things, they both seem to contradict the concept of women as primarily motivated by relationships.

Of course as always, this study is not the last word on the subject. It's one of many and many more to come. But it's interesting.

Read about it here (Nanaimo Daily News, 2/13/09).

FRAMED

F.R.A.M.E.D. (Fathers Rights And Men Ending Discrimination)

By FramedFather

Was I FRAMED by the family court system here in Union County, Georgia? Oh Yes I was Folks!

I have been the target of a 'mock trial', allegedly found - capriciously - guilty, and convicted for being a loving Father and a concerned Parent.

I have done nothing wrong, I tell you all here and now. Notably 'folks' not a thing was said badly about me at the trial. The opposing attorney even suggested 50/50 custody in their closing arguments.

At 'the mock sentencing' farce, I was stripped of my rights to be a Father and Parent by the human rights violator Judge. Who then falsely sentenced me to only be a visitor not the father, with limited visitation rights only of: (4 days a month and even though I live only 3 miles from my daughter). I was also fined $10,400.00/yr. at the sentencing hearing, 66% of my income. The federal government also makes me pay taxes on that $10,400.00 dollars each year, which brings the fine up to almost 70% of my income -- for one child.

The mother is allowed to make up her own rules and violates court orders on a daily basis, with no accountability at all and with the support of the court. I am forced to walk on pins and needles as added punishment for being a visitor and I am under constant threat of incarceration.

Are father Optional

Its NOT about abandonment

Article here. Excerpt:

'In other words, more than 1/4 of white children, 1/2 of Hispanic children, and almost 3/4 of black children were born to mothers who did not feel that marriage was necessary. Since marriage reflects the commitment of mother and father to stay together permanently, it means that a large proportion of women chose to give birth without taking steps to make sure that the father would live with his child and be a permanent presence in his or her life.
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However, as the birth statistics demonstrate, the problem is not simply one of abandonment. Women are actively conceiving and bearing children in the knowledge that their fathers will almost certainly not be living with them throughout childhood. Simply put, women are behaving as if fathers are optional.'

In The UK There are No Consequences for False Rape Claims

In The UK There are No Consequences for False Rape Claims

February 24th, 2009 by Robert Franklin, Esq.

In the blogpost "Outrage!" I reported on a case in the United Kingdom in which a man was accused by a BBC "personality" of raping her 40 times. He claimed innocence and she eventually recanted the allegations. His name is known to UK police as a suspect in a rape case. As such, he cannot get a visa to travel to the United States. He has lost job opportunities because of her slander.

Under British law, her name may not be revealed, she has borne no consequences at her job and no criminal charges will be filed against her.

In my previous post on this case, I encouraged the wronged man to file civil charges of libel, slander and defamation against his abuser, stating that these at least were still actionable in the UK.

And they are, just not in this case. It turns out that, in addition to there being no criminal penalties for this woman's outrageous behavior, there are no civil penalties either. Who knew? So, even more than I originally thought this woman and every other woman in the UK get a free pass. Don't believe me? Read about it here (Daily Mail, 2/1/09).

Women of the UK understand that, if you choose to do so for any reason or no reason, you may, safely, anonymously and without fear of any form of consequence, accuse any man of rape. What about that guy at the fish and chip shop who was rude to you? The teller at the bank who closed the window before you got to the front of the line? The boyfriend who forgot your birthday? They're all fair game. If you get caught in your lie, just recant and walk away. If they go to jail for 20 years or so, that'll teach 'em.

Men of the UK understand that any woman, any time can claim you raped her. If she's caught in her lie, there is absolutely nothing anyone will do to punish her wrongdoing in any way, shape or form. Realistically, there is nothing you can do to prevent it. And into the bargain, she'll remain anonymous, just in case she wants to do it again. And again. And again.

That's the way it is.

Non-Custodial Moms More Likely to be ‘Deadbeats’ than NC Dads

Non-Custodial Moms More Likely to be ‘Deadbeats’ than NC Dads

February 17th, 2009 by Robert Franklin

Ouch! That shoe hurts when it’s crammed onto the other foot.

It seems that men aren’t the only ones complaining about their lives as non-custodial parents; women are too. And guess what? Their complaints about the family court system are largely the same as men’s.

It’s true that non-custodial mothers have one additional complaint that their male counterparts don’t. Public perceptions of mothers without custody are predictably negative. Since women are assumed by popular culture to be natural parents who place the highest value on childrearing, mothers without custody can feel stigmatized.

But when it comes to visitation and child support, non-custodial mothers are singing close harmony with dads. According to this site, it seems the concept that it’s the noncustodial parent who takes the bigger hit financially is true after all and not something MRAs made up. And this site calls custodial parents “narcissistic” and says that children have a right to both parents. Both parents? It’s good to hear women singing that tune.

And now that I’ve mentioned child support among the litany of their complaints, take a look at this Census Bureau report of 2005 statistics. Apparently paying to support their children is something non-custodial mothers aren’t very good at. They do a poorer job of it than do NC fathers, even though their child support burden is less onerous than men’s.

The report shows 13.6 million parents with custody of 23 million children who had another parent living elsewhere. Physical custody was 84% female and 16% male. About 7.8 million of those parents had some form of child support order in effect, but mothers were far more likely than fathers to be the beneficiaries of support orders. Almost 61.4% of custodial mothers but only about 36.4% of custodial fathers had support orders in effect. That means there were about 800,000 custodial dads with child support orders and a little over 7 million custodial moms with orders.

Why are courts so much more likely to order support for mothers than for fathers? It’s hard to say, but I suspect that men’s greater tendency to be gainfully employed contributes. The same Census Bureau report finds that 73.4% of custodial fathers worked full-time year-round, while only 50.1% of custodial mothers did. What the statistics are for non-custodial parental employment, the report doesn’t say.

Custodial mothers were due, on average, $5,176 per year from NC fathers, who paid $3,579 for a 69.1% compliance rate. By contrast, custodial fathers were due only $4,471 per year and received only $2,797 for a 62.6% compliance rate. So NC mothers, although they had substantially lower child support obligations, still paid a lower percentage.

So yes, that shoe can pinch, whether it’s a Red Wing work boot or a Gucci pump.

Welcome to the Age of Female Rage

This woman is so up herself it's amazing! I love the comments from readers. Sample of her whining:

"My generation of women aren't having it all - we're doing it all. It's a constant struggle to meet the demands of my various roles as wife, mother, daughter, colleague, lover, friend. I feel as if I short-change everyone all the time.
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I never have a moment that's just mine. Someone always wants a piece of me. Yesterday, in the middle of a bikini wax, I had an urgent call from the office and had to orchestrate a crucial meeting on the other side of the world, biting my fists to stop yelping at the wrong moments."

Comments:

Submitted by Belgorod on Mon, 2009-02-23 20:57.

Piss and moan
Piss and moan
Pretty soon...
You'll live alone.

Which is what you should have done in the first place, you whiny skank.

You'd have saved your whole family (certainly, including your husband) a lot of big headaches.

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Haha! Now she understands how men have felt since the beginning of time.

Father
Provider
Protector
Handyman
etc. etc. etc.

Along with getting a call in the middle of the night for emergency at work. Getting up in the middle of the night to bring pregnant wife to hospital. Getting up in the middle of the night because teen son/daughter got into trouble. And then, still going to work in the morning and getting home after all that to hear the wife bitch and moan and kids screaming.

Women, you wanted to be in the men's world and be just like us...well, there you have it! Enjoy!

Yet Another Unmanagable Teacher

Bliss H.S. teacher charged with sex crimes on a minor

A teacher at Bliss High School is facing charges of 2-counts of sexual battery of a minor who is 16-years old.

Anna Margaret Bettencourt, 38, of Wendell has been arraigned in Gooding County 5th District Court on the charges, both of which carry a maximum penalty of life in prison.

Bettencourt's preliminary hearing is set for March 19th, and a special prosecutor has been appointed to handle the case.

Officials with the Bliss School District told KMVT they couldn't discuss whether Bettencourt has been placed on administrative leave; or if the teen who was allegedly battered is a student at the school.